Relationships can be one of the most meaningful parts of our lives, but they can also bring up some of our deepest vulnerabilities, fears, and emotional wounds. Many couples find themselves stuck in patterns of disconnection, conflict, or misunderstanding, even when both partners care deeply about one another and want things to improve. Couples therapy offers a space to slow down, better understand each other, and begin shifting patterns that may no longer be serving the relationship.

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Common reasons couples seek therapy include:

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• Communication difficulties or frequent conflict

• Feeling emotionally disconnected or distant

• Trust issues or recovering from betrayal

• Difficulty expressing needs, feelings, or boundaries

• Life transitions such as parenting, career changes, or separation

• Differences in emotional needs, expectations, or coping styles

• Feeling stuck in recurring patterns that are hard to break

Couples therapy is not about assigning blame, but about helping both partners feel heard, understood, and supported in creating a healthier, more secure connection.

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How Couples Therapy Works

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In our work together, we will focus on understanding the patterns that occur between you, and the emotional experiences beneath those patterns. Often, reactions such as withdrawal, defensiveness, anger, or criticism are protective responses to deeper feelings of hurt, fear, or disconnection. My approach is informed by Internal Family Systems (IFS), which helps each partner better understand their own internal emotional responses and protective patterns. This can help reduce reactivity, increase compassion for yourself and your partner, and create space for more meaningful connection and communication.

At times, it may be helpful to meet with each partner individually for a session. These meetings allow for a deeper understanding of each person’s emotional experience and history, and help support the couples work as a whole. The focus of treatment remains on the relationship. Couples therapy also operates with a “no secrets” policy, meaning that information relevant to the relationship may be addressed in joint sessions. This helps ensure that therapy remains a space of openness, honesty, and trust.

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Session Length and Structure

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Because couples therapy involves two people and complex relational dynamics, longer sessions are often recommended. Extended sessions allow sufficient time to fully explore concerns, improve communication, and work toward meaningful progress without feeling rushed. Couples therapy is offered as a private pay service. Insurance typically does not cover couples therapy, as it focuses on the relationship rather than  treating an individual mental health diagnosis. Providing couples therapy outside of insurance also allows for greater flexibility, privacy, and depth in the work. In some cases, extended sessions or therapy intensives may be beneficial to help couples make more focused progress in a shorter period of time.

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A Collaborative and Supportive Process

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Couples therapy is a collaborative process. My role is not to take sides, but to support both partners in better understanding themselves and each other. Many couples find that therapy helps them communicate more effectively, rebuild trust, and feel more connected and secure in their relationship. Even when relationships feel strained or uncertain, change is possible. If you’re interested in learning more or scheduling a consultation, I invite you to reach out.